Can-Do Challenge- Stop Doing What Doesn't Work

As I mentioned a few Sunday's ago, the next few Can-Do Challenges will be coming from a book that I bought as a result of a college class that I ended up dropping and I was unable to part with this book!

I hope that these are as helpful and beneficial for all of you, as they were for me!

Stress Free For Good, written by Dr Fred Luskin & Dr. Kenneth R Pelletier, is a book that has seriously changed my life and how I manage myself :-) I hope that you all have the opportunity to read this book, and if not, please read my posts because they really do help :-)

The eighth life skill written about in this book is: Smile Because You Care

"Something that didn't work that first 100 times it was tried isn't likely to work the 101st time" (174).

Purpose:

~To learn to recognize when what you're doing is not successful and to stop
~To learn to try new strategies that may have better results

Practice:

~When calm ask yourself if the way you've handled the problem so far has worked.
~If the answer is not, ask the relaxed part of you for a new solution to the problem

Tips:

~Feeling stressed isn't your major problem; it's your frustration over not knowing what will solve your difficulty
~You will never know which solutions work if you keep repeating ones that don't
~Have patients
~Solutions that don't work add a second problem-a bad solution- to the first problem of a difficult situation

Application:

~When you're frustrated
~When you feel that you've tried everything
~When people tell you that you need to change
~When you're judging yourself harshly
~When you have a bad habit

Life Skill:

"When what you're doing isn't working, calm down and find a better solution" (176).

Again, all of this information comes straight from the book...I have paraphrased and generally it is not verbatim-I only chose a few items that have really helped me, that I hope will help you :-)